If one is attempting full communication mostly with body language and expecting certain outcomes, that doesn't sounds like it's going to work well. Proper verbal or written language is bad enough with everyone having different red buttons. Body language is even blurrier and that much of variety of potential meanings. One can dance with it. But it could be highly misleading.
Some verbals could be about as bad and some are more often used for deception. Written words are usually worse in same direction. People have different cultures, background and group of people they have history with. Certain signs that one was well educated and fluently communicated with may means nothing to people from different background.
However, being blunt can be problematic as well. I think this is an issue about how much you can trust others to speak openly. And how much humor you can or cannot apply for positive emotional feedback. Being blunt can be very edged and could stab someone where one didn't intended.
I support blunt over cues only because I nearly doesn't have any humors that has any cultural origins. And I've seen some occasions that people exchanged false signals that leads to emotional drama.
I'd say you can balance it out. Shift cues and be cuddly with right people. People who gets your cue, people who speaks same body language as you. I can't think of a better company for socialization. But be blunt with people who asks for it. I would say being blunt on blunt people would be more polite way to get socialized than confusing signals they can't commune.
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